….Father is missing something about childhood,
giggles along with mummy.
there is something they both miss,
they think it will be hard to replace…..
The song I sang freely had a meaning. I sang it the wrong way. I was asked what Ebese actually means. I had no idea what it meant and there the story began.
Ebese is indigenous to Owo people in Ondo state Nigeria. it is a tradition of unity and love.
Ebese is the practice of unity. It was practiced in the olden days. Many families lived together as one in different hut close to another. It has been, that Our forefathers were fighters. The history of our fathers and mothers should contain the love they have shared .
My Father narrated. We were brothers and sisters. we disagree of course, but there was love that we shared in small and big ways. Ebese is a way we unite with other households. Two or more households come together to farm. The households starts work on the first household farm, they take turn to work on one another’s farm. All seasons are covered without sole stress on any household. while one farm is done, the time for growth of plant is when the next household host others to work. it is fun, we go home in the evening, walk miles together, talking and playing.
During the merry go round farming, men and women take turn singing and telling tales. Banter, advice and gist. A big mat is woven to accommodate the family, sometimes neighbors. when the food is ready, everybody sits and eat. The day ends with tales.
Ebese is not only known to neighbors. A man along with his friends (our now groom’s men) work on the brides father’s farm. That is one of the ways to prove strength and seriousness. These men take turn when it is another's. I call this groom shower or bachelors party.
History is rich. Riches is not all about the good, it has bad in it and the ugly. Our fore fathers are not perfect, they have evolved and we are here reforming and reshaping. Culture is the way of life. Not only stories of sorrow will be told but goodness and love.